In my blog and on other DD related sites, you'll run across various terminology. Here's a key to help you decode the lingo:
DD: domestic discipline, the lifestyle couples practice which involves the man taking a dominant role and the female taking a submissive role and accepting punishment and rules from her husband as a means of having a respectful, loving marriage.
HOH: head of the household, typically the male figure in the family is deamed the "head of the household" meaning he makes the decisions, is a leader, and lovingly guides his family with the help and trusting support of his submissive, nurturing wife.
DH: dear/darling/dumb/etc. husband, DH isn't just a DD term, many women use it online as a short for "husband". Most of the time it means dear husband, but it has also been known to describe dumb husband and a couple other four letter words- so for the most part, DDers stick to HOH.
D/s: dominating/submission or dominator/submissive, another term used to define the type of lifestyle in which a couple has a dominant partner and a submissive partner who play out these roles in daily life. The D is capitalized while the s is left lower case in symbolism of their roles in the relationship.
Fetish: a sexual obsession. I don't describe DD as a fetish because it is NOT a sex thing. Although sex is a big part of our relationship, and naturally yes we bring my submission and HOH's dominance in the bedroom, it's our lifestyle. A fetish describes more of a sexual preoccupation with certain objects or fantasies.
BDSM: bondage/ discipline (or sometimes dominance)/ sadism/ masochism, a sexual fetish which involves elements of the four factors listed (sadism, masochism, etc.). Please note: my HOH and I do not practice BDSM, nor do we agree with it's typical practices. Most DD dites will clarify that they are not BDSM. Most of those couples that practice DD will tell you that BDSM is a very different idea, mostly a fetish in the bedroom only, whereas DD is a lifestyle designed to promote and create a healthy marriage/relationship through loving discipline.
Maledom: male domination, this term is typically only used in the world of BDSM or along with fetishes, but it basically describes the practice of, duh?, male domination.
Femdom: female domination, also typically only used with BDSM and fetishes.
Maintenance Spankings: these are spankings, or other sometimes other forms of maintenance punsihments, that are used by the HOH to help his wife remember she is held accountable for her actions during every day life. An HOH may give his submissive wife a spanking in the morning before he leaves for work, even if she has done nothing to deserve it, simply to show her he is serious about her being obedient even when he is away. Some HOHs schedule these once a week or some administer them only when they feel it's necessary. Most submissive wives agree to spankings/punishment even when they haven't done anything wrong (yet) because they know it helps them look up to their HOH and realize he will enforce the rules if she choses to break them.
Figging: although we've never practiced this because we believe the anal area sensitive and easily injured, this practice is used by some HOHs as a form of painful punishment. Figging is when a peeled ginger root is placed in the anus to promote a stinging, painful sensation. If you are interested in trying this, I suggest you do your research as to not injure yourself or your wife. Thankfully, my HOH thinks it's a silly for of punishment that we wouldn't be able to take seriously.
If you have another term you don't see listed here but would like explained, please post a comment and I'd be happy to list it.